A plus-size mom claims she was harassed last month by a man on a dating app with self-proclaimed “above average” looks and “high values.”
“It was so ridiculous that it was comical,” Krista Brown told Kennedy News.
Brown, 36, said she downloaded the Christian dating app Plenty of Fish in November after being single for three years. She was unprepared for the cringeworthy communications she said she received from a match who turned out to be a mismatch.
The Minnesota budget support specialist recalled thinking the cyberspace Casanova was “kind of cute” despite his “pathetic mustache.” She claims she swiped right, but didn’t message him. She says the unidentified man reached out to her — in a big way.
“He sent me a whole huge, long paragraph asking why I think I’m worthy of dating him, and what do I bring to the equation? He had a very condescending tone. He was so absolutely ridiculous,” she lamented.
“At first I was offended, but as I read through it, the more ridiculous it got, and I just started shaking my head and laughing. I can’t even believe there are people out there who actually think like this,” she continued.
Brown shared messages with Kennedy News she said Prince Not So Charming sent.
The man appeared to brag about his home renovation and his “above average” appearance, insisting Brown should have disqualified herself from matching with him for a multitude of reasons, including being “big, chubby, fat.” Brown says she is a size 18.
“Yes, I’m shallow. No, guys don’t care about what women have accomplished in life. No, men don’t want a strong, independent, opinionated woman. Men want to feel needed. They want looks, youth and inexperience,” the disparaging Don Juan allegedly wrote.
He seemed to rationalize that he might have considered dating Brown if she was at least a virgin — but assumed she’s not because she has two kids.
“I know this seems like a mean message, but it’s not. It’s just reality and seems mean because people are so detached from that thing, that thing called reality,” the note read. “Sorry, why do women hold such high standards for men?”
Brown allegedly put the ruthless Romeo in his place, explaining that if he’s intimidated by strong and independent women, he has some issues to work out on his own.
“I’m all for honesty, but there’s something called tact and respect that it sounds like you are severely lacking. I’m not the girl for you,” her response read.
Instead of just leaving the uncomfortable situation alone, the blokish bachelor allegedly continued to insult Brown by calling her “selfish” for assuming he would want to date a woman with children, whom he referred to as “baggage.”
Brown said she had to block the pernicious playboy, not wanting to hear any more of his hatred.
Mental health specialists have been sounding the alarm in recent years about the concerning global rise in incel culture and online abuse of women. Incels are defined by the Anti-Defamation League as an extremist group of “heterosexual men who blame women and society for their lack of romantic success.”
Brown revealed she struggles with her mental health, but is at a good place in her life. She warned that hateful messages like those she provided Kennedy News could have been devastating for some women.
“Something like that could be so damaging if someone actually took his words to heart,” Brown said. “If you’re trying to get a woman, being rude and condescending isn’t the way to go about it.”
